Yes But "NO"

Prince Dede

As humans one thing i know for sure is that it can be difficult to deal with someone saying "NO" when we ask for a favour or an asssistance. But do we expect all our every request to be met?; Are we in control of other people's lives? Is NO always a bad thing? Sometimes saying or accepting NO is a way to ease off the stress in our lives - we should normalise accepting or saying NO for an answer.

“No” comes in many forms throughout your day. The horn blowing in traffic to let you know you can’t move into the next lane, the cashier who closes his line when you’re ready to check out, the toddler who screams “No!” as you try to put away a toy, the spouse who declines your suggestion of dinner out. - Candace Smith

Let's dive into the bible passage below.

John 2:1-4 (ESV). On the third day there was a wedding at Cana in Galilee, and the mother of Jesus was there. Jesus also was invited to the wedding with his disciples. When the wine ran out, the mother of Jesus said to him, “They have no wine.” And Jesus said to her, “Woman, what does this have to do with me? My hour has not yet come.

In the story above, that was jesus way of saying NO for an answer. He wasn't ready for the task that was asked of him, a very important occasion was going on and the wine ran out. Now one would think being who he is, he should be happy to help out afterall he is Jesus Christ the Messiah. But His response was so unexpected!. He wasn't ready for such task! "My hour has not yet come" was his response. Even Jesus said "No"!

We should always have it in mind that, as christians and humans we are not always in control, our subjects might have their plates full or not emotionally ready to carry out such activity we asked of them. We should be considerate when dealing with people and not always expect things to go our way. No sometimes mean "I am not ready for it or i can't do it".

The only time you should hold someone accountable for not undertaking a given task or saying "NO" is when you are paying them for the service. If it’s a favour you asked of them, then let them do it at their own pace. When things are done in a peaceful state of mind you get the best!

Time they say "is money" because time is a resource you don’t have much of. Saying NO shouldn’t be a burden to me or to you - If you live your life trying to please people, you will end up the only one not happy in the midst. So I say to you today normalize accepting and saying no.